Understanding Self-Soothing Sounds During The End-Of-Life. The journey towards the end of life can be a challenging and emotional time, both for the individual facing the end of their life and for their caregivers and family members. One aspect of this journey that may be unfamiliar to many is the presence of self-soothing sounds made by the patient during the transition and actively dying phase. These sounds can be puzzling and sometimes unsettling for caregivers and family members who have never witnessed them. This article will explore self-soothing sounds, why they occur, and how caregivers and family members can distinguish between self-soothing sounds and signs of discomfort. What Are Self-Soothing Sounds? When someone you love is sick, and near the end of their life, you may notice that they make sounds different from their usual voice. These sounds may include humming, moaning, sighing, or even singing. These are called self-soothing sounds, a way for the person to feel better and more peaceful during this hard time. Self-soothing sounds are not a sign that the person is hurting or unhappy. They are a sign that the person is coping well and accepting the changes in their body. Sometimes, the person may not even be aware that they are making these sounds because they are in a deep state of relaxation or meditation. Other times, the person may try to communicate something to you, such as their love, gratitude, or farewell. You do not need to worry or feel sad when you hear these sounds. They are a natural and normal part of the dying process, showing that the person is finding comfort and peace in their way. You can support them by being present, listening, and responding gently. You can also join them in making self-soothing sounds if you feel comfortable and if they seem to welcome it. This can create a bond of love and harmony between you and the person and help them feel less alone. Self-soothing sounds are a gift that the person gives to themselves and you. They are a way of expressing their feelings, faith, and readiness to let go. They say, “I am okay, and you will be okay too.”
